20th May 2020
Welcome to Podcast #16.
Today I discuss: the Law of Attraction, the one key missing ingredient which hindered my success + Free LOA Manifestation Sheet.
But first, I would like to say it’s great that you are here.
To begin I’ll briefly run through what you will learn and discover in this episode:
What the catalyst for a personal huge energy shift was in 2007.
What my naive Law of Attraction mistakes were.
Some personal experiences that gave me bizarre life-changing insights.
The missing manifestation ingredient, which I had completely overlooked.
More insight into the Mind and the Power of the Subconscious.
More awareness of the frequency of emotions and their blocking effect.
My limitless treasure map of abundance.
'Your wish is my command' will forever more have a completely different meaning.
What hurts the mind, on a subconscious level.
What happens 'below the waterline'.
The power of frequencies and just how much Empty Space or Energy-Space you actually are!
How to dissolve, remove and transform blockages from the past.
How to deal with lower frequencies, with insights from my own experience.
You will see the true magnitude of your potential.
There’s a special bonus just for you in this podcast episode too: the 'LOA Manifestation: Emotion & Sensation Sheet' that maps out a whole month! More information about this later in the episode.
So, let’s begin down memory lane. I remember receiving a present from my mother years ago - in 2007 to be precise. She had a certain smile on her face, a kind of proud but at the same time expectant, happy and enthusiastic smile. I can still picture it vividly, in fact, I can still feel that moment.
I was sitting in the living room, on the sofa of our lovely house in Voorburg.
I took the present, it felt like a book and indeed it was.
I remember thinking, my mother’s smile over a book … hmmm… it must be something really special. I opened it and saw: ‘The Secret’, I turned the book over and read the back.
My first reaction was: ‘You see! I was right’. Mum smiles at me, words are not necessary, just a smile and a nod of her head in agreement.
Wow, tears flood my eyes as I think about that moment and the massive shift it brought about in my energy. I knew, I knew there was so much more than just the flat 3D world. And this book proved there was! It said to me: ‘Lisette, you are not crazy! It is correct what you feel’. 5D, or the 5th dimensional world is reality!
I devoured the book, front to back and then all over again, I knew the movie by heart. I told everyone around me about it, whether they liked it or not. Kind of counsellor syndrome before I was a therapist at all haha ... anyway, I just felt everyone should know this! Of course, I started to apply it immediately.
Or so I believed, I thought I was applying it well. I was going to set in motion the Law of Attraction, or the law of attraction. ASK, BELIEVE, RECEIVE was the universal message, and so I jumped to it and started visualising what I wanted to receive in my life. I was wonderfully creative with making my visualisation board, collecting all my dream / wish photos and pictures from magazines; before cutting and pasting them to make a wonderful collage of my wishes and dreams. I stuck it on the inside of my wardrobe door, so I would see it every day. And I had my cheque, a paper cheque that you could print out, filled in completely according to instructions, with amount and date, and pasted it in the bathroom mirror cabinet so I saw it every day.
I did everything according to my feeling, according to the book, according to ‘The Secret’. Of course I also kept a 'gratitude blog' and wrote down every day what I was grateful for. Something I still do, by the way; but back then, it was obsessively on my mind, before going to sleep and every morning when I wake up.
Anyway, I was completely absorbed in ‘The Secret’, Law of Attraction hype and there … is exactly where it went wrong for me. I had taken it all too literally. I thought: ASK, BELIEVE, RECEIVE… was literal. Yep, just place your order and wait for it to be delivered, like a kind of online shopping order. Slightly naive in hindsight, taking it quite so literally. I remember one time while on holiday in the South of France; floating in the private swimming pool on an air mattress, I thought: I must be available by phone because my order will be delivered in no time. When I think back to it now … oh my … seriously …
Well, you will understand that was a disappointment …
I was so absorbed in what I wanted to receive that I almost forgot to see and experience the richness that was just around me at the time. I had just had my third beautiful, very healthy child. I had a sweet caring husband, we lived in a beautiful house. I was on vacation in Super Cannes at the family home on the Cote d'Azur and I … I was waiting for my order from the universe. Can you picture it ?!
I just laugh when I think about it. My blessings were already around me, but when it took too long for me to see the results I was expecting, I let it go. Being busy with three children didn’t help.
But what happened, after I let go of the piece 'manifesting by willpower'? In 2008, a year after reading and applying the techniques from the book, I took my real, active, first steps on the spiritual path, really in training form. From that moment on things started to change, everything I touched worked out and one thing led to another.
I had also given the book to a dear friend, who was a young mother in her early 40s and who was very seriously ill. She had metastases throughout her body, and had already spontaneously broken her hip. That's how serious it was. I wanted to help her so badly, I wished I could do something for her. Then it hit me, I should tell her :‘The Secret’. I told her with enthusiasm, passion and love, all the ins and outs and gave her the book, asking her to please, read it. She did, but a while later I got her death card to my great sorrow. The book was the last thing I could have given her and I hadn’t seen her since.
Then some time later the most special thing happened during a consultation with medium Marion Berndsen in Landgoed Op Hodenpijl, (yes, hoping arrow, the magical estate where I was also allowed to do my work as a medium and tutor years later). During that consultation, suddenly a young woman came through who had died of cancer. I didn't expect it but it turned out to be my deceased girlfriend. Marion literally said: ‘I don't know what she means but she says: “you were right”!’
Wow, I got goosebumps all over because I knew immediately what she meant! ‘The Secret’, it's the truth!
What a gift I had received. After that I immediately started my very first 2-year mediumship training with Marion Berndsen. She had touched me so much with my girlfriend's contact at the time. Those were my first steps in the mediumistic field, and a world literally opened up for me and a dream came true.
Gradually I applied techniques from the law of attraction, came to understand how energy worked and developed fully on an energetic and intuitive level.
However, one important and absolutely essential ingredient was missing. Even though my life took wonderful turns with many highlights; from my own EnergyJewels that I talked about in the previous podcast, to training, developing and working abroad at a world level. Public events, practice, everything … yet, something was still missing.
Now you are probably curious what that is. Well, to be fair, I've only known about it for a few years. I actually discovered it by chance, or maybe that point was the right time for the penny to drop. Was a process of personal growth and development required first?
The missing ingredient in my Law of Attraction application was: the Mind! More specifically, the power of the subconscious mind!
Of course I knew that you have to watch your thoughts and that you attract what you think. After all, thoughts are things. Everything is energy. I really tried: ‘think happy thoughts, positive, happy thoughts’ is my motto.
But what I didn't realise at the time, is that you can with the power of your mind, visualise and try to create anything you want. However, if there (on a deep subconscious level) is a limiting belief, a dated pattern, an emotion that is triggered and which then completely sabotages you … what happens then?
That's right, it’s then that you will keep going in vicious circles. You go round and round, receiving the same lessons over and over again, driving you crazy. Yes, believe me! I was the absolute world record holder for spinning in circles, at least in my opinion.
And there was the key!
Wow, when I noticed this during simple transformation sessions, that I had to tackle these pieces on a subconscious level, I knew!
This was my missing ingredient, my blind spot, my invisible saboteur: I finally understood! Everything suddenly made so much sense! Of course, after I had experienced the power of the subconscious mind myself, I also had to master it. I wanted to understand the ins and outs of the mind and the subconscious.
And with that I got my hands on an unlimited treasure map, a treasure map of abundance. Abundance in the broadest sense of the word. Really, I see the results, I feel and experience it and people around me see and experience it too.
What do I mean by this? I’ll expand on it a bit: imagine an incident happens to you as a four year old. For example, someone says something funny about you, and others who hear it start to laugh, and you, as a four year old, feel so very bad about it. It sucks, and small but smart as you are, you decide at that moment: ‘I never, ever want to feel and experience this feeling again’. Okay, your intelligent mind says, I listen to what you want, so I will make an internal, subconscious note of this. I will save it for you because I am your best friend, and am always here to protect you day and night. From now on I will make sure to avoid all situations where this is likely to happen again, anything related to that same feeling. Your subconscious mind will then act this out, even making you ill so you don’t have to go to that party.
Your mind does everything to keep you away from pain (that is his or her job), meaning it will go to great lengths to keep you away from that painful experience.
But now you are 38 years old and you do not understand why you have trouble coming into contact with a group of people. Being in a group brings on a really uncomfortable feeling, even thinking about it brings you out in a cold sweat. With the common sense of an adult you want to be comfortable in a group, but that gut feeling is so nasty, so prevalent that you just give up.
Well guess what? This response is a pattern, conceived with the intelligence of a four year old, which was super smart at the time. However, does it still benefit you now, when you are 38 years old, and so many years have passed since the incident?
I can now tell you from my own experience: if you do not understand where and when something originated, then you cannot transform it.
You cannot heal what the mind does not understand.
And that is why it is essential to discover, say, what goes on underwater. You probably know that beautiful photo of a huge ice floe: 5% above water, 95% underwater.
Suppose that 5% is your thinking, rational mind. There is your willpower.
That 95%, invisible, below the waterline are your emotions which are linked to your memories.
Suppose an incident occurs. You know what, I will make this example more concrete with a personal story. In fact this painful experience still triggers me, up to this day.
My father was a sailor, he still loves to sail with his boat, but he used to be a super fanatic; always sailing at sea with his incredibly fast, tough sailing boat from Scheveningen to England to France. Really, no wave was too high for him.
Now in this memory I am around seven years old. Dad was sailing with the crew towards France, to St. Malo.
It was summer vacation and I went with my two older sisters and my mother by car to the marina in France where the men were docked by boat.
It was a long ride and so very warm in the middle of summer. We saw a beautiful beach with stones along the coast in France and decided to stop. We felt like cooling off and my mother, sisters and I (all four of us), walked to the sea for a while. My two elder sisters went into the water together. I watched it from a distance with my feet just in the water and my mother was standing next to me.
I saw my two sisters laughing and playing